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TWINKLEBEAR: So astute!
TWINKLEBEAR’S COMMENTARY ABOUT MY “PROTECTOR” MEMOIR
I love this memoir my Sookybear, I love you. Thank you so much, for always being my PROTECTOR and GUARDIAN. I am so lucky to have you. I wonder if it is some sort of constant Karmic force, where the people remain the same, only the time and places change? Maybe each time the “Kidnapper” is the same person, each time forcing his EVIL ways, through time, space, and so on? Only the circumstances and venues are more seemingly comfortable, and unsuspecting. I love my Sookybear! Thank you! Podmates, Twinflames, Bear Pact Forever and a day! 121212.
What an astute observation on Twinklebear’s part! “Twinklebear” is my Twin Flame love. My last memoir, “Protector” as you know, featured my role as Twinklebear’s guardian and protector in past lives and this life. When I read her insightful comment, my mind flashed to two significant threats to her health and life in the past—and to be clear, when I say “past” in this context I mean the past in this life, not in past lives.
Really, when I thought about it, these threats struck me as “Medusan” in nature. They represented two deadly snakes growing from a malignant Gorgonic Medusan Head of evil, that might have preexisted in our past lives together. As you know from reading “Protector,” I saved her from from an abductor in late 11th to early 12th century Mongolia. This human evil snake I rescued her from was an outgrowth of the Medusan Head of evil that might be chronic threat to Twinklbear’s well-being. As Twinklebear said, “…the people remain the same, only the time and places change…”
In this lifetime, there was a very clear threat to Twinklbear’s health and indeed life, which I helped save her from—which you can read about Here. This deadly snake of a malignancy growing from the Medusan Head of evil however, was only one of the two threats to Twinklebear from her past. The other one had a human head.
In retrospect with the help of Twinklbear’s observation, I recognize this other threat to her well-being from her past as a human snakehead. As I have said in past memoirs, I will not get into specifics to protect our privacy. But I can tell you that this person was and is a malignancy as dark and malevolent as that cancer that we beat. They are from one and the same dark evil force.
In 11th century Asia, fierce Mongol warriors rode horses and slung deadly arrows from their mounts. They also committed wholesale slaughter and indulged in the wanton abduction of women. Things have change since then, but as Twinklebear said, “…each time the kidnapper is the same person…forcing his evil ways….only the venues are more seemingly comfortable, and unsuspecting…” In the 21st century, abductors masquerade as friendly beings, only to slowly unmask as time rolls on, after their deceit has worked.
In the present, the abduction of women may take on subtler overtones. The weapon of choice is not the bow and arrow, but rather the velvet hammer of insidious deception. The men who inflict hurt and harm on women in this century, leave persistent wounds on their emotional abductees. The kidnapping process may have been quick in the 11th century and prolonged in the 21st century, but the deleterious effects on women is what they have in common.
In this era of electric lights, gaslight still remains hugely useful to the evil practitioners of the dark arts of women abuse. Other dark tools of this devious trade would make psychological warfare experts jealous. Intimidation, projection and constant repression form the modern day bondage of women, as effective as the ropes and cages of the 11th century.
Psychologists use the term “gaslighting” to refer to a specific type of manipulation where the manipulator is trying to get someone else to question their own reality, memory or perceptions. And it’s always a serious problem, according to psychologists. It may start out with seemingly small offenses. But the problem is that even more-or-less insignificant instances of you questioning your own judgment or reality — thanks to the deliberate intent of someone else — can snowball. You can end up in a cycle of not being able to negotiate your daily life in a way where you are clear minded, can focus, can make sound decisions, and have a sense of well-being.
There usually tends to be a power dynamic when gaslighting happens. The manipulator holds enough power that the target of the gaslighting is terrified to change the relationship or step out of the gaslighting dynamic because the threat of losing that relationship — or the threat of being seen as less than who you want to be seen as to them — is quite a threat. If it’s happening by someone you love and care about, you’re going to WANT to believe the other person — and the gaslighter may use that against you. Be wary of gaslighting if you start to question yourself a lot. Watch out for these:
Withholding (meaning he or she refuses to listen or says they don’t understand).
Countering (when the abuser questions the gaslightee’s memory of an event). Blocking/diverting (when the abuser changes the subject or questions the victim’s thinking). Trivializing (making the victim’s needs or feelings seem unimportant). Forgetting/denial (when the manipulator pretends to have forgotten what actually happened or denies something he or she had previously agreed to).
And note that a gaslighter will oftentimes start with something that is true that you might be particularly sensitive about to hook you. You’re constantly second guessing yourself or have trouble making decisions. You’re ruminating about a perceived character flaw (like being too sensitive or not a good enough person) In a confrontation with the person that might be gaslighting you, you feel like you suddenly find yourself in an argument you didn’t intend to have, you’re not making progress or you’re saying the same thing over and over again and not being heard. You’re frequently making excuses for your partner’s behavior.
I love you, Twinklebear
Forever and a day
Twin Flames, podmates always
Bear Pact Forever
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