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Twinklebear’s sentiments mirror mine, apropos of “Twins.”


“My parents will call anyone displaying overly sentimental behaviour – such as crying at a film – a soppy date. I’ve picked it up, of course, but I think by and large it’s people of pre-war vintage who use the phrase. I say ‘pre-war vintage’, but my father put it rather better at a family party while discussing 1930s art with a member of the younger generation: he referred to himself as a genuine piece of Art Deco.

I’m not exactly sure where the ‘date’ part comes in but the phrase is or was current enough to merit inclusion in the Oxford English Dictionary as a term of ‘affectionate abuse’. Although its currency is obviously wider, I’ve known it mostly as a family phrase because I’ve really missed out on all the jocular things people say to each other in the background and so don’t really know how common the phrase is now.”

“I’m so into you.”

“I’m so drawn to you.”


Early on in our Twin Flame journey, my Twin Flame “Twinklebear” said that we were “soppy dates.” At that time, I did not know what this British slang (Twinklebear is English and I am American) meant. This happens from time to time in our wonderful conversations, and these slight differences between the British and American popular language are fascinating to us. These small differences not only spark interesting dialogue between us, they also make each of us examine the origins of slang more thoroughly.

Twinklebear then explained to me that a “soppy date” is a person who is demonstrably romantic or sentimental. I’ve gotta tell ya, that’s Twinklebear and I to a T. Take for example, two quotes of Twinklebear’s that I pointed out. In January of 2016 she said to me, “I’m so into you.” A couple of days ago, almost three and half years after she said that, she said, “I’m so drawn to you.”

What do you notice about these two offhanded utterances? They are obviously very similar, in that they express a very specific mindset, couched in quite similar language. Looking further into the nuances of these two statements, what do they tell us about said mindset? It is the language of the romantically infatuated. I will also say that, “I’m so drawn to you” is not something a person more than three years into a romantic relationship, would say. “I’m so drawn to you” is uttered by a person who is in the grip of full-fledged, crazy-in-love-frenzy.

Noun. A intense but short-lived passion for someone.

We all know what romantic infatuation is. Another slang phrase for it is “puppy love,” bringing to mind two love-struck teens, destined to fall desperately in love only to fall inevitably out of love, three weeks later. My point about Twinklebear and I is, we are neither teens nor has it been three weeks since we fell desperately in love.

It has been over three years since we fell head over heels, madly in love.

And we have not shown any signs of slowing down. If anything, we are more desperately in love now, than over three years ago. If we were soppy dates three years ago, then we are more “soppy” now—and getting soppier by the day. Given the upward trajectory of our “soppy datedness,” we needed life vests three years ago—and now might need a full-sized ocean-going raft to stay above the sop.

It is amazingly unembarrassing for me to admit how soppy and romantic we are. Four years ago for me, it would have been unthinkable to admit such a strong romantic streak of behavior and talk. Before Twinklebear and I met, admitting such a thing would have been the equivalent of me wearing a poodle skirt and a blouse with kittens on it! Hey! Watch it! I can hear you! Ha!

But I am not embarrassed at all. What my Twin Flame and I have in terms of soppiness, is overtly miraculous, wonderful in the fullest sense of the word and like food, water and air to me now. I don’t mind telling people that Twinklebear and I tell each other “I love you” twenty times a day, and mean it with a full song of the heart playing in the background, every single time.


I love you, Twinklebear
Forever and a day
Twin Flames, podmates always
Bear Pact Forever!
12 12 12 in every way

2 thoughts on ““SENTIMENTS”

  1. Aww so soppy Sookybear . You “soppy date!” What a clever , sweet, memoir. We are sentimental, and mushy! ” Mushy” being I think , more American, in its use

    I am just visualising you, in the skirt and blouse ..ha!!

    I love you forever and a day. Podmates Twinflames 🐻 pact forever. 12 thank you for the memoir , my Sookybear.

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  2. My AC Twinklebear, if I am a soppy date, then we are two dates in a pod. Ha! YOU!….”Yes dear…we’ll do more shopping now”…. (I trailing behind you, wearing Bermuda shorts with kittens on it….carrying five bags of merchandise). Ha! YOU! Bad sexy girl, you! I love you forever and a day. Twin Flames, podmates forever! 12 12 12


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