“….the ‘zone of privacy’ is going to vary from time to time and place to place—just as our concept of physical modesty does. The zone of privacy has boundaries on two sides. We don’t care about some information that might be revealed about us, probably because the revelation causes us no harm—or we’ve gotten used to it. Over time, information will move into and out of the zone of privacy on both sides. Some information will become so unthreatening that we’ll laugh at the idea that it is part of the privacy zone.”


Edited by Berin Szoka, Adam Marcus


When my Twin Flame “Twinklbear” Lesley Maclean asked me to begin writing memoirs about our Twin Flame journey, I was all for it. This was a little more than a year ago. I was ready for this task because before writing about photography, the martial arts and the biker subculture on the internet, I was a print magazine columnist on these subjects. As such, I had always written about these subjects, on the most personal level, as I was deeply involved in these activities for many years.

When I began writing about the aforementioned subjects on the internet about two decades ago, a whole vista of total freedom to write what I wanted, opened up to me, like an oyster opening to reveal a rare and precious pearl. This was because I was writing on my own websites, where there were no print editors to edit or censor my writing.

With respect to our soulmate memoirs, this had a twofold benefit for me. First, I was able to document our profound Twin Flame soulmate journey. Secondly, it enabled me to deeply express my love of Twinklebear, to the world, and to her, like an elaborate Valentine’s Day card to her.

It seemed like each memoir read like an ebullient Valentine’s Day card for my love, Twinkle The Fair. And, check this out: Since that first memoir a year ago, I’ve written 62 memoirs! That shows how very much I love my “twin” Twinklebear, and how very much I love to express that love in the written word.

Naturally, having such freedom to express my deep love and commitment to Twinkle The Fair, spurred me to great heights of flourish about our Twin Flame journey. How could I possibly blunt such a subject? Water down my enthusiasm? Ha! Try stopping a freight train by standing in front of it! Flip that noise, Man!

It would be like trying to stop the water held back by the Hoover Dam, with a rickety picket fence. Impossible! I love Twinklbear so much, I wanted to shout it from the rooftops of the internet!

I had to examine every lovely emotion I felt for her. I had to make clear—the enchanting effect Twinklebear had on me. I had to describe to the best of my literary ability, how crazy in love we immediately became, and how that has defied gravity by persisting.

It wasn’t just persisting, but increasing in contravention of the laws of nature of normal life (“normal” in non Twin Flame relationships)—since the very first day. The phase that Twinklbear and I, are perpetually in, is similar to the short-lived “infatuation phase” found in non Twin Flame relationships. The latter tapers off, while ours intensifies as time goes on.

When people are so madly in love, defying the term “infatuation” by exhibiting the long term, crazy in love effects that are characteristic of of Twin Flame love, becomes easy. In these cases, the descriptive superlatives gush forth from our love-addled souls. Love will not be restrained! And so it is in our memoirs.

This is the “shouting it to the world” ethic that Twin Flame partners, are obsessed with. It is nature’s way, baby! Love seeks its own level, it is a love homeostasis at a very high emotional level.

However, we are starting to exercise discretion, about which rooftops of the internet, that we shout our love from. Some enclaves in the internet town, do not appreciate Twin Flames as town criers. Nor do some ‘hoods deserve such edification. The Twin Flame relationship, is a unique experience, available to few, and unimaginable to most.

Discretion is the better part of valor. Caution is preferable to rash bravery.

I love you, Twinklebear
Forever and a day
Twin Flames and Podmates Always
Bear Pact Forever!
12 12 12 in every way


2 thoughts on ““MEMOIR: NO PRIVACY ZONE”

  1. Well such great words my sookybear, I agree, the ” Twinflame” journey is riddled with ups and downs, also others prying and poking, into something ” they ” could never comprehend,let alone feel ! It is a shame to have to be more descreet, yet, as you say often necessary. I like how each new experience, makes us grow, and learn, also take stock , of what’s going on.
    I love this memoir, thanks so much for writing it my sookybear podmates Twinflames 🐻 pact forever and a day. 121212 I love you in this life, next life and beyond …

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  2. I love you forever and a day, AC Twinklebear Lesley Maclean! Yes, we grow, and ascend (*WINK*), constantly. You are very welcome. I love writing you for you, and about you—and us. The act of writing lifts me up, lifts my spirit, replenishes me–as you replenish me, every single day. Twin Flames, Podmates, Bear Pact always! 12 12 12


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